WAR IS NOT OVER WHEN BOMBING ENDS
Raised in Germany, a country that was the center of WWII. My mother was born on September 2nd 1939 one day after WWII started. Her father had to leave to war on Sept first and my grandmother was so stressed she birthed her second child to early. My mother saw her father once when she was 4 years old for several days when he had a "war holiday". He was a stranger and scary with all this energies he had witnessed on the battlefields and he died 2 years later in Russia.
I was born 1961, 16 years after WWII had ended. After the war Germany was flourishing we had an economic boom and the people had worked very hard for their new way of living. Why should I write about that ?
THE EFFECTS OF WAR ARE PASSED INTO THE NEXT GENERATIONS !!
My grandmother was a very simple woman who worked every day to have enough money for her children and was the person with the biggest heart in my childhood. She shared many stories of the time in war and I loved to listen. They lived in Stuttgart which was bombarded 53 times, they were twice in the basement of a house they lived, that completely broke down and had to be digged out.
For sure there are families that experienced much worse but I want to share the effects until TODAY !!
So what happens to a child that grows up in an environment like that ? Fear, bombs, death ?
The body has a magnificent survival strategy which shuts down all feelings. This is crucial to survive because with all the horrible things the child witnesses it could not handle the overwhelm anymore. So they are disconnected from their feelings to survive. Also they learn that any second something horrible can happen that changes everything, and can even cause death. This programming is then embedded in the subconscious and will influence their whole life if they do not look at it.
There is a brilliant book written by Susanne Bode "Warchildren" that became a german Bestseller. People were able to understand by her explanation what was going on in their lives. She got so many letters and was told so many stories that she wrote a second Bestseller " War grandchildren" which is actually my generation, raised by the generation called war children.
The war grandchildren are raised by parents who have been in war, are disconnected from their emotions and expect the worst. Do you think this influences a childhood ? Yes it does. There is no one to be blamed this is simply explained that we understand why certain behavior is as it is. When you understand this you see your parents in a very different light , you have empathy what they experienced in very young age and you understand that they give what they are able to.
BUT IT ALSO SHOWS THAT WAR FOR WHATEVER REASON IS NEVER AN OPTION CAUSE THE LONGTERM EFFECTS ARE NOT WORTH IT
Dr Klinghard who is not only a holistic doctor but also works with systemic constellations says that these traumatic experiences weaken the immune system. The next generation then has a weekend immune system by birth and when they experience any trauma it weakens the immune system even more. And if they have children the chance that they have learning disabilities such as dyslexia or dyscalculia are extremely high. All I can say is my immune system is weekend and my daughters both struggled in school with these learning challenges.
So this is just a short overview to give an understanding that bombed cities can be rebuild very quickly and it might look that people have overcome their sad experiences but in truth they are still disconnected from their feelings. When we understand how these warchidren perceived that any time the airplanes might come and bombs fall you will always expect really bad stuff in your subconscious even if you had an easy and pleasant life the last 50 years this program it still running underneath.
But we will go deeper into that. Its only the peak of an iceberg
My perception is that germans are pretty negative compared to other countries. I wonder if these negative expectations could be a reason for this.
To be continued
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